No.. this is not a mathematical post. It doesn't contain physics either and it is most certainly not about Eintstein. This is about how we view our lives in relation to other people's lives. (or at least I hope it is!)
This topic has been lingering at the back of my head since I said bye to my friend H2O when she left the university campus for vacation. Clueless, ann@, cookie monster and I had to stay back because we still had one exam pending. The Life science girls (a more decent way of putting it!) were stuck with their genetics exam! After H2O left it was soon time to say bye to puttas!
The next day, when us life science girls were sitting together and cramming up for the exam, one of us casually remarked that H2O and puttas must have reached their homes. That triggered a chain of thoughts in each one of our heads. They were probably eating home cooked food, sleeping all they wanted, watching TV etc etc.... (sigh... and we still had exams! imagine how irritating and at the same time, inviting these thoughts were!)
At that point of time, my mind completely refused to believe that there were students in our university who had already reached home while we were still slogging with exams. It seemed impossible! It seemed like H2O and puttas were still around in their rooms!
I had no idea back then why that thought seemed so unbelievable. So what if my friends were enjoying back at home while I was sitting and studying in the university?
I realized only recently why I found that so unbelievable. The answer is ridiculously simple. I was just not able to relate to their situation because it was so different from the situation I was in. It was a mere lack of imagination and a lack of faith in whatever little I imagined.
This has not been the only incident when I could not relate to something that someone else was doing. There have been many occasions. Not just for me. I know my friends have also faced it. For example, when I had an exam on a module that Clueless and cookie monster had not taken, I was not able to imagine them having a late lunch while I wrote the exam. From what clueless told me, they were not able to believe that I was writing an exam while they leisurly had lunch!
Such incidents have taught me something. No matter how hard we try, we can never look at the world through another person's eyes completely. There will always be something missing. Those advertisements which come ever so often asking us to "look at the world through the eyes of the flood victims or tsunami vicitms" never thought of this apparently. Maybe to a certain extent we can relate a few things here and there. But not always and never 100%.
We have only one life (or so I think.. even if we had more, would it matter to this life?). We can be only who we are. We have our own pasts to look back on and our futures to control. It is our own present that we live in. Nobody can look at the world through your eyes or walk in your shoes even for a moment and completely understand how it feels to be you. And you can't do the same with someone else.
But this doesn't mean we live in a cold world. It does not mean that absolutely nobody understands the joy or the pain we feel at times. It does not mean that nobody shares our emotions. This is where our loved ones come into picture. Those who have been with us in our past, share our present and look to our future. They are probably the only ones who can walk in our shoes and understand at least 70% of how we feel. They are the ones who can relate to most of the things we do. It is the people with whom we share our lives that we will be able to relate to most of the times.
Mind you.. I said "most" of the times. Not always. There will always be situations where you can't relate.. no matter what! Take H2O's and puttas' departure from the university as an example. Trivial.. yes... but it is still a situation where we realize that our world revolves around our lives most of the times and around the lives of people we love and the people who are stuck in the same situation as us!
I don't know how far this theory of relativity is true. Maybe this is just a post from an inexperienced person. Inexperienced in the ways of life. Maybe I have not yet learnt a few crucial lessons and hurried into conclusions. I have no idea. Perhaps my theory of relativity is true and I will get a nobel prize! (hmm... not in physics though.. i wonder if they have any special category for this!)
So what do u think of the so-called "theory of relativity" that I have put forth? Sense or nonsense???