Imagine an object moving along a surface.... a smooth object moving over a surface. The surface texture is not even. In some places, it is really really rough and gives the object plenty of friction. The object moves slowly and might even need some external force to keep it moving. In some places, the surface is really smooth and lets the object move along quite fast. Friction is low.
Don't you think relationships are like that?
Sometimes, all is well... you could hope for nothing better. Everything is going on just as you wanted it to go. Things are smooth. Time seems to fly by and such experiences become a thing of the past before you know it.
Sometimes... things don't go on that well, there are fights and arguments. Lots of emotions and feelings are involved. Probably a pinch of anger and ego are present to. These rough times just seem to drag on and on don't they? Just like the object struggling along a rough surface. They might even scratch the surface of the object and leave permanent marks, which remind us of all the sadness, pain and anger everytime we look at them.
Why can't the surface be smooth all along? Why does there have to be friction? Even if there is friction, why does it leave such dents and scratches which take a long time to fade? Why doesn't the surface remain smooth? Why don't the good times go on forever and ever.
I know what you are thinking as you read this post. You are either thinking that this girl has gone completely loco, or that this girl has a point. You are also probably thinking that life is not only about the good times. The bad times are equally important. Thats what life is all about right? Ups and downs, highs and lows, laughter and tears etc. I know the rough surfaces are unavoidable and form an intergral part of life. However, the one thought that scares me is....
What if things get so scratched and dented, that they become unrecognisable? What if the damage is beyond repair? What if the object can't be replaced? What if the friction is so high that no force, external or internal, can set things moving again?
What if a relationship that means a lot to me gets messed up because of all the friction we can't avoid? What if the smooth sailing (with just a few turbulences) becomes a thing of the past?
What if I lose someone precious? Will I be strong enough to accept that?