"Nothing evolves in isolation"
Thats what my father always told me. And the beauty of this one line, is that it can be applied almost anywhere at anytime. This post is one particular area, quite a popular area actually, where this line is applicable. And for those who have been reading my blog right from the start, I know you must have guessed by now where this post is headed. I am indeed talking about emotions. I am talking about how emotionally dependent we are at times. But this time, its different. I am not looking at the "weakness" aspect of it. I am looking at the other side. I am talking about the people who remain the pillars of strength when you find that your emotions are not co-operating with your intellectual side.
Who are these pillars of strength? Well, I guess the answer to that is basically anyone who truly cares about you. Anybody who loves you and cares about your happiness is very likely to be you pillar of strength I guess. They are the ones who seem very solid and unbreakable, they provide the firm support you need when you think that your world is falling apart.
Most of the time, the very first pillars of strength in our life are our parents. After all, they are the ones who watched you grow from the day you were born and stumble across difficulties along the way. They know what lessons came to you the easy way, and what came the hard way. They are always there for you and know just what has to be done to show you a path when you feel like there is nowhere to run.
Are parents our only pillars of strength? I don't think so. Some of your closest friends who really care about you can also be your pillars of strength. They are also there for you when you need them. Somehow, even though they have been with you only for a matter of a few months or years, they seem to know exactly whats bothering you and what you need. They can relate to your problems in a way that they manage to help you find the solution. I know my friends have.
Sometimes, in our blind emotional rage, we say stuff that really hit our pillars of strength with full force, with the objective of battering them. They do get hurt, believe me, I know that I have hurt those who tried to support me when I was down. But these are the people who never let go of you. Even though they are terribly hurt by the things that you say or do, they stick with you and help you get through the rough times. They care too much about you to let stuff like this matter.
But what happens when one of the pillars of strength in your life seems a bit shaky? You always thought they were unbreakable. What happens when you pillar is facing some problem in life or is affected by something that happened? What happens when that person on whose shoulder you always leaned on breaks down because of something that has happened? Time and time again I have learnt the answers to these questions. Your own world seems to shake. After all, these people are the pillars that hold your world up. You thought they had the inner strength which rivaled hercules's physical strength. Nothing looks the same when they are shaken up. I wonder if they ever realize that along with their world, the world of the one whom they always supported, is also falling apart...
Whats to be done in such a situation? The most obvious answer is the correct one. You try to become a pillar of strength for your loved one. You might have been weak in the past. You know you will have your weak moments in the future. But now, you need to be strong. Remember? When you were sad, it always felt good to see someone a little stronger than you helping you out of your sorrow? Now its your turn to be stronger. Seeing you crumble is not going to do your loved one any good. You gotta learn to be there, as a strong pillar of strength for someone who has been yours for so long.
So here's the message of this post.. which goes out to my pillars of strength. I will learn to be strong like you and be your support. I just want you to know that I'll be there for you whenever you need me... So when you need someone, don't think twice. Just call me... I will be there by your side at the speed of light... And I'd do that for you, only because I care about you... just the way you care about me...
This bit of the post has nothing to do with what you've read so far. Its just a little acknowledgement to my 50th post. I know its no big deal to publish the 50th post for many. I am not a regular blogger and thats why it took me so long to reach 50. But looking back, I realize what this blog has done for me. It has, in a way, been my pillar of strength. Half the posts that I published were all to let out my thoughts and feelings which I just couldn't hold back. Everytime I published a post like that, the relief I felt was one of the best feelings ever. I just want to thank the person who inspired me to create this blog. I can't imagine what life would have been without this blog. I can't imagine what life would have been without you. You've been my pillar of strength in more than one way... in real life and through this blog... Thanks dude! You rock! :)