Tuesday, April 28, 2009

You Love, You Learn

I have learnt, in the past one week, that the hardest thing to do, or rather what defines your trust in a relationship/friendship, is not divulging your deepest, darkest secrets of your past and present... its not about sharing secrets and all, its putting your heart on the line, sorta tearing it out to show the person how much love is there in you.... its what makes a person most vulnerable in a relationship, to have revealed all the affection, not knowing what you are going to get back in return...

Its extremely risky. I am beginning to wonder if its even worth it... is there really any point to being an expressive person. Right now it seems like an expressive person, if not careful, stands to lose a lot more than other people in terms of relationships and friendship. A person capable of expressing well has a higher chance of having his/her feelings hurt.

I am a very expressive person... and have often found it to be a big disadvantage. Its not been easy for me or the people around me. Maybe it won't be such a bad idea to mellow down on expressing sensitive issues and thinking twice about stuff... Yeah... I think its the best thing for me... for now....

4 comments:

simplime said...

Heyy! These are just phases in life when you start feeling that whatever you do ends up hurting you. I have been there and you know that. You also know that you helped me realize that this is not a bad quality after all...and that I should not let this thing in me die out. and now you yourself are backing out? In the long run, you'll realise, how much this means to everyone around you, how much have got back in return. not in a direct way, but in some way for sure...don't lose heart dear...its just a phase and it will pass...I won't let you become any less than what you are...

doublehead said...

Hmmm, I dunno what prompted this blog, especially after an exam like the medical microb, I can only make a guess. What does one gets in return for expressing "THINGS"?, well...it depends on the person to whom you are expressive. Yes, I agree with Alanis, YOU LOVE, YOU LEARN

doublehead said...

The moment I let go of it
was the moment I got more than I could handle
The moment I jumped off of it
was the moment I touched down!!

The more and more I wanted it
the farther and farther it got away
The moment I let go of it,
the closet it ever did come to me!!

Clueless said...

I don't know what prompted this either, but being expressive is not a bad thing. People are just different in some ways, and expressing/not expressing your emotions is one of them. It's likely to cause problems if one person in a partnership is expressive and the other is not (I suspect 90% of relationships suffer from this problem because the guys aren't expressive enough), but it doesn't mean that not being expressive means a person is less affectionate than someone who expresses that emotion. And I think once that fundamental concept is grasped, you can tell, without needing for someone to express it, that they feel the same way. I hope that makes sense! :P