I was recently just browsing through a folder in my gmail account where I have stored all emails and chat records that mean something to me. I realised that almost all of them I have saved because somewhere buried in an ordinary looking email are words of deep affection... for example... "I love you for who you are", "You are an amazing friend", "I hope you find everything that you are looking for", "I'll always be there for you", "I don't know what I would do without you", "You have helped me through this rough patch", "I miss you", "I miss you too" etc etc. You get the gist....
The thing is, when I think about all the nice things said to me in email or chat, I struggle to dig out as many instances in face-to-face conversations with these very same people where they actually spoke out those words to me... or even a phone conversation (not sms). I have actually heard the spoken version only in the rarest of instances.
Why is it that we are more comfortable telling the people we love how we truly feel only through the internet by sending emails, chatting, becoming a fan on orkut, adding to top friends on facebook etc etc but seldom speak the same words when we meet?
Is it easier to open your computer, sign into your email and send an email saying you are thankful or something rather than picking up the phone and dialling the number? Or is money the issue here?
Maybe we just find it easier to express in an email because we have time to sit and think and frame the right sentences and so on. But don't spontaneous emotions count for anything?